At Last, A Quiet Moment

August 31, 2008 at 6:58 am 2 comments

Dan is asleep for the night I hope.  It is quiet. Now, I can “visit” with you.  Dan is in the midst of what seems to be reaction to the chemo.  He had a heavy sweat when his fever broke in the middle of Friday night.  Saturday, he was free of fever until 9 – 11 p.m. He slept most of the day.   The shot to boost his immune system causes rapid growth of white blood cells in the bone marrow.  While that does protect against infection, it creates pain in all of his joints.

With every movement causing pain, in his drowsy condition it was hard to get him to take liquids.  But God helped us make it through the day. One thing that helps him is to listen to books on CDs.  It is rather amusing to put a CD in the computer and watch Dan go to sleep within 5 minutes after the story begins.

And what did I do with all that “extra time” that I had because Dan was sleeping???  I got my physical workout by washing the sheets (and 3 other loads of clothes) , airing the comforter in the sun, stuffing the comforter back into the duvet, and other fun things like…I went to the Mall…for a precious baby blue plastic pad with white flannel top to put under the sheet so that the next time Dan has a heavy sweat, the mattress will stay dry.  I bought 2 more pairs of pajamas so Dan will have dry pajamas to wear while I wash the ones he sweated down.  I also entertained myself by shopping at the drug store.  I found wonderful things like Imodium for intestines upset by chemo, Tylenol for fever, a small radio/cassette tape player with headphones so he has something to listen to when he can’t sleep in the night.

Why do I share this with you?  Not to gain your sympathy.  I am only one among millions of married people who love their mate and do what we do because we want to take care of them. That is what love is all about.  I write for two reasons…I was asked to keep a record because this blog may be the beginnings of that book I’m supposed to write : > ), and secondly, I write because we have loved ones all over the world who want to know what is happening with Dan.  I’ve discovered a third reason – it is theraputic for me to write about the struggle.

I began this for you and Dan, but I am receiving a great blessing in that it keeps you and me connected.  The comments, the e-mails, the Skype messages from you bring me joy, peace, and strength to “hang in there.”  Another Ann whose husband had cancer surgery, may have cancer again, and is having thyroid surgery this Wednesday wrote, “My scripture for today is Deut. 31:6, ” Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid for the Lord your God goes with you.  He will never leave or forsake you.”  What a tremendous reward awaits us…even if we have to toddle up there to claim it!   Keep standing, you are doing good.”  — Anne and Dan

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  • 1. Marilyn Holland  |  August 31, 2008 at 3:18 pm

    Dear, dear, precious Anne (with an ‘e’),

    You are loved, loved, loved down to the bone! How wonderful to hear how much you love that man of yours now these 58 years! What a blessing for all of us who are married, for those who want to be married, to remain faithful in ‘sickness’ and in health. Many want to avoid that ‘sickness’ part when it finally comes around. And thank you for taking the time to write in good times and in hard, hard times. So sweet to hear and read that you are holding on to God’s hand no matter what comes. You are both a blessing to many. Kiss Dan on the forehead for us.

    love you much!

  • 2. Shawna McGill  |  September 1, 2008 at 11:08 pm

    Hi Ann,
    I am Dent’s wife and met you a few times at the reunions. I have been reading your blog occasionally. I believe God sends me to it for a message he has for me. One that has come across so very strongly is LOVE. Your love for Dan, his love for you, both of your love for the Lord and God’s love for you both. How awesome is that? That unconditional love that drives you to buy extra pajamas, a bed pad and medicaiton to ease his pain is the exact unconditional love that God gives all of us. Many times it takes some suffering to open our eyes to that love. I just wanted to thank you for your postings and encourage you to keep them up. It is not only therapeutic for you but for many more of us.

    Our prayers are with you always,
    Dent and Shawna McGill


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