Dan Is Still with Us

May 23, 2009 at 6:24 am 4 comments

We had a good day.  Amber an awesome nurse made it look easy to pack the cavity!  The packing went right in on the first try!  She takes such good care of Dan anticipating his every need.  He ate well today, but his breathing has become very shallow and difficult to get his breath.  He asked me this morning to stay with him…not leave him alone.  He knows the end is near. Amber fixed the hospital bed so I can lie beside him tonight.

Our daughter in law’s brother and his beautiful Russian wife brought lunch today!  Four delicious Russian salads that we really enjoyed.  What a treat!  They leave in a few days to visit her family, so they had to say, “Goodbye.”  Tender hearted, so kind.  We are blessed to be surrounded with such loving family.

I hope Dan is still here when Tim and Claudia arrive from Spain.  They wanted to come the first of this week, but could not arrange for someone to keep their children any earlier.  They are on the plane now.  Sometimes we do the best we can…but it is too late.  

Many loved ones have phoned, sent cards, e-mails, Skyped.  If you hope to contact Dan, he may be here in the morning.  And, he may surprise us and be here several more days.  With it so difficult to breathe even with the aid of oxygen, I don’t know what to expect.  What I do know is that he is cradled in the arms of Jesus, and will be okay…and Jesus will carry me until I can walk.

 This is the, “Goodbye,” that I could not talk about for the first 10 years of our marriage.  But, after 56 years of marriage, we can talk about anything, have worked through many challenges in our life, have learned that we are in control of only what we say and do.  We have talked about his passing, have the memorial services planned for here, North Richland Hills, and Oklahoma, and what I will do in the future if the Lord wills.  

God has been our pilot, our Guide, all our lives.  When we chose to listen to Him, things always worked out.  When we chose to do it “our way,” things didn’t always go so well in the long run.  We are at peace about Dan’s passing because God knows much better than we what is best for all of us.  He will help us deal with our grief.   “The Lord has done great things for us,”  Psalms 126:3.  He wants to do great things for you.  — Anne and Dan

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  • 1. Fern Doyle  |  May 23, 2009 at 11:26 am

    My heart aches for you. I pray that God wraps his comforting arms around both of you. Anne, please give Dan a hug for me. It has always been a joy to see and visit with you all.

    Dan, thank you for the way you have always served our Lord in sharing His word with so many. Your quiet spirit is so great. I love and appreciate you so much. May God’s richest blessings be with you.

    With love,

  • 2. Sherrie Hammond  |  May 23, 2009 at 12:24 pm

    Dan has great strength as he holds onto life and living each day. To me, this confirms Dan’s final destination is eternal life where we will all see him again in heaven’s glory. Dan’s spirit wants to live, and Dan’s spirit will live on forever in heaven with Jesus where no more pain, sorrows, tears, or separations exists. The apostle John teaches, “Then I saw a new sky and a new earth . . . I saw the holy city . . . coming down out of heaven from God . . . And God will wipe away ever tear from their eyes. None of these things will exist: death, sorrow, crying, pain. Old things have passed away (Revelations 21: 1-4-SEB).”

    Jesus says, “The people who are broken in spirit are happy, because the kingdom of heaven belongs to them. The people who are crying now will be happy, because they will be comforted . . . People who have pure hearts are happy, because they will see God. People who make peace are happy, because they will be called the sons of God . . . You are the light for the world (Matthew 5:3-14-SEB).”

    The apostle Paul teaches, “Give praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the Father of tender feelings, the God of all comfort. He encourages us when we have any kind of trouble. This is why we are able to encourage people who are having all kinds of trouble. We use the help which God gives us (2 Corinthians 1:3,4-SEB).” “God comforts people who are down (2 Corinthians 7:6-SEB).” “Sometimes we are in doubt, but we don’t doubt the truth. We are being chased, but God never abandons us. We are knocked down, but never knocked out . . . Everything happens for your good, so that God’s gracious love will touch many more lives. They will be thankful and this will overflow for the glory of God (2 Corinthians 4:8-15-SEB).”

    The Scriptures teach, “From now on, the people who die in the Lord are happy. The Spirit says that they will enjoy rest after they have worked so hard. Their good deeds follow them (Revelation 14:13-SEB).”

    Anne and Dan have many good deeds recorded in heaven’s Book of Life. Dan’s good deeds will soon follow him into heaven’s glory and remain with him and to Dan’s credit forever. Anne has many more good deeds left to do on this earth in the years to come, so Anne can have a long list of good deeds following her into heaven’s glory many years from now. God knows your good heart. God loves you. God comforts you and gives you peace. May the Lord bless you and give you calm tranquility as you grieve.

    Love to you,
    Sherrie H.

  • 3. Sharon Glenn  |  May 23, 2009 at 5:18 pm

    I realize that it is a very difficult time for boh of you. Thank God that you are faithful followers of His Word and look to Him for peace and comfort. Who knows how many people are touched by reading all that you have written throughout this journey?? Thank you for writng and hopefully it can be published to touch so many others who feel so alone. Is this God’s plan? Only time and listening to His voice will let us know.
    We are supposed to visit with Henrilee, Bethel and Carm at nelda’s this afternoon. I will pass along your latest message and update. Please give Dan a hug from the Oklahoma group and let him know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you both.

  • 4. Clayton Tuggle  |  May 23, 2009 at 8:17 pm

    Dear Dan and Anne: I only heard today of your severe circumstances. I am so sorry. God’s ways are beyond our knowing. I will be praying daily for both of you. May He give both of you freedom from pain and much peace during this terrible time. I thank you for your good srervice to Walnut Hill while you were a part of that group. It is a difficult road you will be traveling Anne. Take all the support you are offered…Clayton


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